Finding the elusive Mr or Miss Right is usually hard work. Thus, when you do find that special partner, you hope things will work out. But, when one person cheats on the other, the relationship can be turned upside down.

But what exactly is cheating? While the dictionary defines it as an act of lying, deception, trickery or fraud, like art, it is subject to interpretation.

Some people may consider it cheating only when sexual intercourse is involved. This is so for Kevinwho is admittedly a bit more liberal.

As long as I don't sleep with her, it's not cheating," he said bluntly. "You will have your bonafide person, but also have other girls who you can hang with. We might even go out. But once you sleep with them, that tek it to another level."

Kissing is cheating

Some think even kissing is a form of cheating. But non-penetrative acts like cybersex or flirting are not considered cheating. Take Camillefor instance, who said she is a flirt, but never takes it, 'too far'. She'll even dance at parties with other guys in quarters some think may be too close. But she insists it's all in fun.

However, Stacey-Annbelieves that even holding hands may be considered cheating. She said that it is the little things in a relationship, such as her partner blowing her a kiss when he is leaving that make a relationship special.

"If he does that with someone else then that, to me, is cheating. Plus, there will be nothing special in our relationship aside from sex," she said. She noted too, that if she ever finds out her partner has had sex with another woman, that would be the ultimate act of cheating.

"And I know I will become violent. The thing is, I am not a jealous person, but there are certain boundaries that should not be crossed."

Jamestoo believes that even cybersex and flirting are cheating.

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"I am a jealous man and I 'bun' (condemn) all those things and I cannot work with that," he said. He explained that when he is getting into a serious relationship he usually has a discussion about what he considers to be cheating and also hears her views on the subject. They then come to an agreement and set certain boundaries.

He pointed out that while he would not fuss too much about his partner going out and dancing with a guy, once he is not there, but anything that is intimate should be reserved for him and him only.

What do you consider cheating and where do you draw the line? Share your views with us at: lifestyle@gleanerjm.com

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