She says one must consider whether 'singlehood' is from choice or lack of choice.

If it is from a lack of choice, women may experience depression and conflicts about not having children, or someone to share their lives, especially if they have been taught culturally that they cannot be fulfilled unless they are married and have children, says Muftizade.

In such a case, the psychologist advises, counselling may be necessary to assist them to be happy and fulfilled and adjusted to their situation.

Empowering experience

"Support can be given to them to view (singleness) as an empowering experience and an opportunity to grow ... "

However, Muftizade suggests that if singleness is by choice, then remaining single could be a happy and fulfilling experience for the following reasons:

Their happiness is no longer dependent on external sources or factors but is inner-directed.

Their level of self-awareness determines their happiness and they are able to seek personal meaning in their lives.

Their focus may become God or spirituality.

They have carved a place for themselves in the workforce and have achieved recognition for their efforts.

They have a social support system that is fulfilling.

Being single is seen as more advantageous than being married and is also viewed as a positive life decision.

If they have selected to be single or to delay marriage to pursue a career, then their careers may be so absorbing that they are sufficiently happy and fulfilled.

Some women may not marry but have a partner who fulfils their needs.

Their enjoyment and fulfilment of single life is based on a sense of freedom after an unhappy or abusive marriage.

avia.ustanny@gleanerjm.com.